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“This conversation is muted by soft gray clay walls of an enormous hole that’s soon to flood and then turn into a lake. On this summer Sunday morning, the mustard yellow track hoe sits quiet. An oily smell wafts over and mixes with sour dirt smell. The earth-moving crew is off. We picked this time so as to focus. We can talk about elevation, trees, grading, grass, and groves that won’t mature for many years. The three of us in this hole, three generations of Southern men, all squat, side by side, fully focused on the slope of gray mud. I did the master plan for this farm community.”Jenks Farmer

Plant People

By Jenks Farmer

An enormous hole that’s soon to flood. (Photo: Jenks Farmer.)
An enormous hole that’s soon to flood. (Photo: Jenks Farmer.)

Jenks Farmer

COLUMBIA South Carolina—(Hubris)—March 2025—“We’ll plant the cypress grove over here. See? We’ll curve it this way.” I walk along the muddy bank, swinging my arms in a broad curve.

“Yeah, I like that. Blends the cypress pond into the garden. Dad’s cottage will go over there, on the point where the lake turns east.” Mac looks to see his Daddy’s reaction, then he keeps on talking. “He’ll have nice morning sun on the porch. But Jenks, the elevation here might be wrong. Squat here. Look at the horizon.”

I squat. “I see it. When the earth-moving crew comes back tomorrow, ask them to take this six inches deeper. That’ll keep the cattails from growing.”

This conversation is muted by soft gray clay walls of an enormous hole that’s soon to flood and then turn into a lake. On this summer Sunday morning, the mustard yellow track hoe sits quiet. An oily smell wafts over and mixes with sour dirt smell. The earth-moving crew is off. We picked this time so as to focus. We can talk about elevation, trees, grading, grass, and groves that won’t mature for many years.

The three of us in this hole, three generations of Southern men, all squat, side by side, fully focused on the slope of gray mud.

I did the master plan for this farm community. Today, I’m a consultant. The other two have been on this particular spot their entire lives.

A farm and pond master plan must be both romantic and convey information that will, one day, be hidden below water.
A farm and pond master plan must be both romantic and convey information that will, one day, be hidden below water.

Henry, to my right, has a white crew cut covered by a big straw hat. He could easily be my daddy. I’m not surprised when he launches into storytelling mode. “Listen here, now. I don’t know if it’s entirely true or not. Most likely not. But I clearly remember when old Donnie Trudy dynamited his pond, blew a massive hole, knocked hisself out, and woulda’ been smothered by the mud that was raining down on him except for his old donkey Phoebe. Old Phoebe saved him. Stood over his head and saved him from drowning in mud. Every Fourth of July, even New Year’s Eve, anytime there were fireworks. That loyal old donkey’d go crazy if she wasn’t right by his side every time it thundered. For 30 years, come a holiday or storm, old Donnie had to hurry home to keep Phoebe from breaking out and coming to find him.”

Henry was born on this farm, I’m guessing, in about 1945. I picture him telling the extended version of this story to guests from out of town, drawing it out, and padding the punch line. Today, it’s funny, but it also reminds me that his generation built ponds with dynamite and donkeys. All we’re doing is putting out flags and texting the pond crew.

To my left, his son Mac, in a green Augusta National cap, has heard these stories before. Mac is not quite as middle-aged as I am. Mac is all business, making sure we get our work done, and get our plan laid out for the summer. Mac knows who’s gonna drill, shape, plant, seed, weed, and when they’re going to do it. “Old Donnie. Miss him. But Dad, the bulldozer guys are leaving this week; we really have to focus on getting these contours right.” Mac’s great at making sure everybody gets a turn to talk. He listens. Considers. I can tell he’s listening to his pre-teen sons who are somewhere nearby, out of sight, wheeling around in the mud on a farm golf cart.

There's something intimate about an empty construction site. You see the raw process; the coarse work of creation. Without the roar of equipment, l can walk clients through design details, make subtle changes, and ensure they absorb this as memory. 
There’s something intimate about an empty construction site. You see the raw process; the coarse work of creation. Without the roar of equipment, l can walk clients through design details, make subtle changes, and ensure they absorb this as memory. 

Dense gray clay banks, soon-to-be lake bottom, swirl around us in perfect, beautiful, big bulldozer- size curves. We’re deep enough down it’s all we see except blue sky and a fringe of emerald green pine treetops. From there, right over our heads, a dozen Mississippi Kites, the same color as the clay, fly over. We’ve already let the story pass and jumped back into planning.

“Heeelp! It’s my turn! Heeelp me!” I start a trot up the slope to see what’s wrong. Two boys pushing each other for the driver’s side of the golf cart. The next generation. The ones who’ll really enjoy the cypress trees and this lake.

“Jenks, don’t worry. They do that all the time. They’re fine.” Without taking a breath, Mac booms at them, “Boys, DO NOT go in the wet side. We’re gonna have to fix any tracks you leave.”

Mac knows the tones of their arguments without even looking.

Being down in this hole, hearing that Daddy confidence, transports me.  I hear Mac’s stern, resigned, compassionate Daddy-voice. I hear words from 40 years ago. “DO NOT GO ON THE DIRT ROAD! In the Magnolia Lane is OK. THAT’S IT. NO FURTHER.” My Daddy’s voice booms over my go-kart motor. Then I hear him say to his brother, “They’re fine. Let’s go look at the cows.”

No seat belts, three inches off the ground, and we shoot down the lane to skid around each and every massive magnolia tree. In and out. Those little knobby wheels spin and slide on glossy yellow magnolia leaf carpet. I remember that someone told me an old man planted these a hundred years ago so his wife wouldn’t get sunburn. Now, they spread over 60 feet wide. A quarter-mile of them. From the field, it’s a huge shell of green. Sky to ground. Make your way inside and it’s so prehistoric dark that nothing but bent poison ivy grows.

Suddenly, down in this hole, I hear a voice from way back in the 70s. A stern, resigned, compassionate Daddy-voice
Suddenly, down in this hole, I hear a voice from way back in the 70s. A stern, resigned, compassionate Daddy-voice.

Daddy helped us bushwhack this path under branches and through the dog fennel patch along the edge of the cornfield. “DO NOT GO IN THE CORN. That’s food. Plus, it’s not our field.”

We buzz it, then round the old cow feed shed and back. Magnolia flowers smell sweet but thick, hard magnolia leaves slapping you in the face on a go-kart smell spicy and warm. Masculine.  We clip the edge the field. Turn sharp, making the other boy lean in, trying to make his face get slapped with corn leaves. But not breaking the rule. We wouldn’t go into that cornfield for a million dollars.

Corn leaves, popcorn on one side, dog fennel on the other. Shade, sun, trees, fields, smells all pass fast. Memories. Now we’re stopped where we started, two male cousins jostling for the go-kart driver’s seat. Our smell started out this morning with Ivory soap and bleached t-shirts but now we smell of excitement, magnolia spice, and popcorn with a top note of minty fennel.

Nobody’s worried about us. We’re fine. We’ll do this all day, playing under the dense canopy. One of the trees has a crazy horizontal branch bigger round than two skinny boys put together. We walk it. Balancing 20-feet up. We pass each other on it. Straddle it. Then, near the trunk, we find names carved into it. With our pocket knives, we make up a story and carve; A. P. loves T. R.

The idea that somebody else will climb way up here and be fooled by our historic hoax thrills us. Black magnolia bark carves easy. You slit the hard black part and peel it to find yellow and slick insides that release a smell like Granddaddy’s vanilla pipe tobacco.

These trees were made for climbing. We climb to 40 feet. 60 feet. Higher. We edge out another horizontal limb, then hang from it to get our bare feet onto the trunk of the next tree. My heart pounds. A magnolia bridge. We hug the trunk to slide down and let out Tarzan yells. Back at the bottom, eyes locked, we dream of building interconnected forts. “Just like the Swiss Family Robinson!” No adult ever said not to do this. But we know that we’ve pushed the limit. We vow not to tell anyone.

His old donkey Phoebe saved his life. Stood over his head and saved him from drowning in the mudslide. They were together 30 years after that.
His old donkey Phoebe saved his life. Stood over his head and saved him from drowning in the mudslide. They were together 30 years after that.

Daddy stowed two sandwiches and two Little Debbie Oatmeal Creme Pies in the go-kart. Lunch break on a limb. That go-kart was exciting for a while, but making up stories, climbing trees, and adventure in the wild won out. A horn blows. Daddy’s Dodge pick-up horn. A deep, low, authoritative, “Come home now.”

We thought exploring dark caves and tall trees meant we were alone. Parents were out of sight and out of mind. Now, I understand it didn’t mean that for Daddy. He heard go-kart motors. Yells. And quiet. He interpreted all that even while he worked, read, or walked the pastures.

I snap back to the present dilemma of making sure this new pond I’ve designed holds water. But I see Grandad to my right has added plenty of great ideas to the pond conversation. And he’s told stories. But he has also checked his phone constantly. That surprises me. Unusual for an old guy. I realize he’s tracking the boys. At one point, he taps the phone, and a woman’s voice on the speaker says, “Henry, make them come to the house by 11:30. They’re probably filthy, and y’all all need to dress for lunch.”

I know this all registered with Mac. He’s still focused, making notes, and texting the earth-moving crew, but has never let his attention stray from the boys on the cart. I realize that I’m even in that mode a bit. Maybe it’s a boy thing. All of us in this hole know exactly what we’d have been doing if we had been set loose on a farm cart, in a massive mud hole with brand new hills and dips. We’d have been testing limits. But, no, it’s more. It’s a Daddy thing: love with freedom. Let them be. Tracks in the mud can be fixed. But setting limits. Keeping tabs. Making sure the hard lessons don’t hurt too much. All the while, with amazing Dad attention, Mac’s putting out flags and laying out trees, probably imagining that one day these boys’ children will swim, climb, and maybe wonder about the old man who told the same stories over and over, about building ponds and planting trees.

Back-country road. (Photo: Mark Albertin,  producer of the documentary “Sacred Waters: The Okefenokee in Peril.”)
Back-country road. (Photo: Mark Albertin,  producer of the documentary “Sacred Waters: The Okefenokee in Peril.”)

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Jenks Farmer is a renaissance plantsman. He fell for plant sciences at Clemson University, for botanical garden design at the University of Washington, and for the natural world during an early education from a family of artists, musicians, and farmers. For 20 years, Farmer led teams to plant and establish the vision for two of South Carolina's major botanical gardens; Riverbanks Botanical Garden and Moore Farms. These gardens as well as his designs for homes, museums, and businesses have received awards and delighted hundreds of thousands visitors with the joyful, easy exuberance of hand-crafted gardens. An engaging storyteller and teacher, Farmer has established multiple internship programs and is talented at motivating people of all ages and from all walks of life to get outside and get their hands dirty. Farmer has lectured for groups as varied as the North Carolina State Agricultural faculty, the Smithsonian, Wave Hill, scores of Master Gardeners, and, of course, his grandmother’s Allendale Ladies Afternoon Reading Club. His writing has been published in "Organic Gardening" and "Horticulture," and his photos in the "Royal Horticulture Society Magnolia Quarterly." He is the author of Funky Little Flower Farm, Gardening with Crinum Lilies, and Deep Rooted Wisdom; Lessons Learned from Generations of Gardeners. Farmer lives with his husband and family on an 18th-century South Carolina farm, now the site of a pioneering mail order nursery specializing in organically grown plants of the genus Crinum. (Banner Photo: Paisia Photography; Contributor Photo: Lonnie Webster/Augmented by René Lannen.)

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